I was mulling over a few thoughts yesterday, particularly about balancing life, work, family and friends.
I know what it is like to be dancing with depression and I know what it feels like to have anxiety and panic attacks. I was thinking about those past experiences and strategies I have in place to manage them. Aside from counselling, medication and changing my self-talk from negative to positive, the most valuable lesson was understanding that I must preserve myself.
That's when I burst out laughing with the question: "Does self-preservation mean I have to make Susan Jam?"
That really tickled my funny bone and gave me a good chuckle. I am still working on the recipe however it sort of goes like this:
This is what I say each day, sometimes out loud and sometimes my inner voice.
"Dear Grace, thank you for my life and everyone in it. I am truly grateful for everyone I love. I know that that the Universe conspires to bring me favour."
Doesn't have to be huge. Sometimes it's an extra 10 minute snooze, putting on a face mask, driving up to the lookout at sunset. But it's for MY benefit, no one else and that's what makes it special.
I think this should be mandatory for everyone! The benefits of massage are amazing. It's the greatest stress relief for your body (besides an orgasm). My darling partner is my giver the majority of the time, though every now and then I need that next level up and will see a professional. If you have never had a hot stone massage go and have one!
This may mean different things to different people. For me, it's about loving the other person even when they are at their worst and allowing that person to see, and love you, at your worst too.
These are just a few elements in my recipe. Chocolate features heavily but I thought I would omit that as I'm trying to break my habit.
What is your recipe for self-preservation? Do you have tips to share?
I would love to know your thoughts.
If you feel a resonance with the above, please leave a comment below as you may just help the next person reading this blog.
Comment from one of our Facebook group members - MBy: MJ on 2 June 2019I too have been trained in the school of hard knocks. And from my personal experiences would suggest the following: 1. Have self-belief... no one can believe in you as you believe in yourself 2. Do unto others whenever the opportunity presents itself 3. Love wholeheartedly and honestly at all times 4. Always tell the truth that way you don't have to try remember what the truth was 5. learn what respect is and abide by it all times
The Spicy Boudoir Response
Thanks, MJ. Great advice there. Thank you for sharing!